2T things sound good in all fronts, don't they?

Firstly well done to your dentist, that must be such a confidence boost for you!

Secondly, well done to you for handling the situation so well. It seems like you are getting through to your H without causing issues with the BIL.

I think separating the issues sounds like a good idea, two different db fronts might be easier to work on than one that is too complicated.

I hope your H continues to try to reconnect to your business and to the M.

"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"

“There is freedom waiting for you,
On the breezes of the sky,
And you ask "What if I fall?"
Oh but my darling,
What if you fly?”

-Erin Hanson