She seem very emotional when I dropped the kids off after the weekend away, what to know everything! Commented that she was finding it hard etc
She is beginning to experience the results of her decisions. When she makes these type of statements, she's wanting you to comfort her. Don't do it. You don't have to say anything or act cold.........just don't respond to her pity party. There is a time when a H would comfort/support his W when she is unhappy........but this is not the time.
She is feeling that sense of losing her control......and maybe the position she had in your life. This is exactly what you want her to experience at this point.
Your dad is handling her calls well. I'm sure it is nuance to him, b/c I've had the same situation. She is trying to keep you in place (which she believes is under her thumb), and she wants to know your whereabouts at all times.
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She hadn't been calling me or txt me at all leading upto the I don't love you speech!
It's as if the WW is saying, "ILYBNILWY..........but I want you to stay in love with me". Therefore, she is constantly checking to see if you are still attached to her.
Turn up the heat by ignoring her insignificant texts. If your dad let's you know she's looking for you.........don't call her. It's not going to stop her calling your dad. In fact, this is how she gets you to pay attention, b/c dad contacts you and then you contact her. She knows the drill.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
