Stay the course. Keep your focus forward in your lane.
Think about it like a world class runner. If you start peeking over into the lane next to you to see how the other runner is doing, that is where you lose a step and can be passed in the race.
Stay focused on you and the value of your actions for you and your children. You can not predict her reactions and when you start to try, your actions are no longer genuine.
Another analogy is when dogs sense fear in you. You can act all you want, but the dog still senses the real you. Same goes here. If you start trying to take action with the intent of getting her to react or not react, she will sense it and then you will lose any ground that is gained.
Play it cool, validate, detach, and be the best you possible.
I know this may not be a specific strategy, but you are in the part of the game, where you need to apply the things you have been taught through DBing and then be who you are. You must be the most genuine "you" that there is. Happy, confident, loving, respectful, kind, etc. These are not things that can be strategized for. This are things that need to be genuinely part of who you are.
I am pulling for you. You know I admire what you have done so far, and I am praying for the best possible outcome for you.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
