He seemed ok. I mentioned that I will be our wedding anniversary tomorrow. His reply was: "Well, we're not married so it's just another day"
Kinda hit me when I got home that he still talks to me to like something he stepped on.
I got angry.
I emailed him and said:
The real reason we broke up was more to do with the way you spoke to me in the last few years of our marriage than anything else. Other people noticed more than me. I was too used to it I suppose.
My feelings towards you had changed - there is absolutely nothing wrong with me sexually. I've discovered there is name for it. Emotional abuse.
Your response to me today bought that all back.
I still care for you but will get over it.
There you go - it's all out in the open now.
Let me know if you want to address this.
His reply was:
No point I hope you have a great life and will continue to say hi when we run in to each other.
What?? He still thinks he does not have a problem. It [censored] really, I had hoped he might actually want to talk about it. I'm his second marriage. First marriage fell apart for the same reasons.
I guess I'll just have to accept that it's over and he will never change. Doesn't sound like he's open to suggestion.
Your opinions would be gratefully received please. Head is going in circles here!
Me:54 Him:58 3 Adult children between us. I am H 2nd wife. My 1st marriage. Married:8 Together: 12 Separated: 1 Aug 2015 Status: Separated In NZ we need to be separated 2 years before we can divorce.
