Stepup, listen to Sandhi. I was like you being super nice, attentive, did everything for my W. She told me nothing was going on, just friends etc. Until i found hard proof. They will lie, lie, lie. They will lie like crazy, my W of 11 years turned into super crazy spy level liar.

Without hard proof, trust your gut.

Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs
23Mar16-BD
9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss.
27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM.
14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation.
24May17-Divorced.