Uncharted Waters

[2Times2Many]

I love my dentist! He worked magic and my smile looks as good ... maybe better ... than it did when I was 30!

When I was in the dentist chair, staring at the ceiling while the Novocaine did its thing, I thought about the remarks at the end of my last post and it was like a light came on re my anxiety about BIL.

While I don't want to get between H and BIL and I don't want to be the in-law who stirs up issues and discontent in the family, I think I finally realized my real issue.

I want H to come back and run his company because he is a savvy businessman and it would be financially beneficial to both of us. But, like our M, I want him to come back because he WANTS to and not because I influenced him in any way and believe me, I could influence him big time when it comes to BIL's performance and attitude toward H. I want a decision to come back to be his decision and I don't want him to move in a direction that he might later regret or one he feels he HAS to take or, worse, blame me for at some point in the future should he regret coming back.

I see it as two sides of the MLC coin. The personal one where he walked away from me and our M and the business one where he walked away from his business interests on this side of the world.

When I look at it from that perspective, my whole outlook changes. Instead of feeling like a fish flopping around on the pier when it comes to the business, I feel like I have a handle on things. I think I got this. I see it as DBing on two fronts. I think that will help me identify what I should relate to H and what is best left unsaid (the things that don't affect operations or are personal attacks against him). The encouraging part is H seems to be trying to reconnect to the business over here and that is something to work with and something I'm thankful for.

Yup. I got this now.