I've read that in a healthy relationship the typical reaction to being accused of cheating is generally they seek to prove they are not, to offer assurances, reassert their feelings for the spouse, etc.

When someone is cheating, they tend to try and deny, make excuses, deflect blame, make the accuser feel like they are crazy, etc.

My WW definitely followed that pattern, and eventually the truth was bore out by evidence.

Sorry, but threatening to move in with an ex-boyfriend is not a normal healthy response to a spouse raising concerns!


Me, WW - Upper 30s
BD - Apr 1 2016
EA - Apr 7 2016 (discovered; ongoing for months; did not confront right away)
Confronted wife about EA - May 17
Wife sent NC email to OM - July 11