A new crossroad reached

[mleigh4]

Thank you and don't worry, I am not taking on the responsibility for his unhappiness. As I continue to process that statement, I do realize this has been the theme the whole time. "You neglected me. You gave everything to S, nothing to me" In all honesty, I am so tired of hearing it and can clearly see he is still stuck there.

I am glad I spoke up and pointed out he certainly wasn't treating me like a princess. I am also glad I told him I am no longer there and don't want to go back.

Thing is, it's become very clear to me that I have learned from my experience, I have grown, and am moving on. He remains stuck in the same place. It is just like we say, we keep moving, growing from it. They remain in "poor me" world. This is where it's tricky and for me, why I feel we are no longer compatible.

When we do talk, this will definitely be something I bring up. This has been an experience to learn and grow from. If he wants to continue to play the blame game, and not own up to his part, he is not for me. I know it takes longer for them to reach that point, I just don't know if I am too far ahead of him now. Having a baby rocked my world. I had no idea what the work involved would be like, the lack of sleep, the anxiety it brought on, the responsibility I felt to take care of this little creature. On top of that, I was working full time, coming home to cook my husband dinner each night, handling home responsibilities.....like you said Job, he could have helped. He sat back and watched me run myself ragged. My mistake and part I will own up to is, I should have spoke up and demanded help. Instead, I just kept telling myself, it will get better, it's temporary.

He took the day off today and has S since S had no school today. He sent me a couple of pics of S playing. I am keeping him from getting into my head. Nothing has changed except the opportunity to open a door to some better communication.