I agree w/what Cali and Sotto posted to you. Don't take on 100% of the "you didn't want me theme" he's singing these days. That's projection and let's be honest, no marriage is perfect and still it's a choice whether to be a part of the family or to sit back and just let things slide. He should have spoken up and/or taken a more active role in the family. I have a feeling he just sat back and allowed you to take on a lot more of the stuff. Again, he had choices and he didn't step up to the plate. He is a grown man and if he wasn't happy at that time, he could have spoken up and maybe things would have been better for him.
The window has opened just a bit and it just might be the right time to communicate w/him, but don't take on the entire baggage. He's got 50% of that baggage to deal with too.
You are in a good place right now and please do not allow him to mess w/your mind. You aren't his mother and it is not your job to make him happy. He has to figure out that happiness comes from within and until he does, he'll never be truly happy. He's still got a lot of work to do on himself and you can't do it for him. Listen and validate when you have your talks, but don't allow those talks to make you second guess yourself.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
