We must have been posting at the same time. I will check out your thread later today when I have time and comment there. I am so, so sorry you are here. I feel you, sister! This is the hardest thing I have ever been through in my life. It will get better one day. You are in the thick of it. Take care of yourself!
To answer your question, NO, my H did not bring kids around OW and I made it very clear I would never be okay with that. We live in a small town, know all the same people, and our kids are friends. We even had the same circle of friends for many years. During the A, OW tried very hard to get them together, have "family" time, and even wanted H to move in with her after she left her H! This was all under a years time! All the kids would know and she had no sense to even care about anyone but herself. She is a real piece of work! ... Anyhow, even when H was deep in the fog, he kept their A as hidden as he could, and he felt very ashamed. He did not want me to know/see what was going on and he never wanted the kids to know either.
My friends, family, and therapist all told me to let that idea go and that I could not control him. I knew they were right, but I still tried. I made it very clear to him what a dirtbag he was and to keep OW away from my children. I think he knew in his heart I was right. He also did not want to hurt me or the kids. ... To this day, they are still not allowed near her or to her to kid's parties. People can judge all they want, but I will not let my guard down on this. She is a toxic woman and I do not want her to ever have a chance to say anything to my kids. This mama bear is not to be messed with!
I'll get back to you later! Thank you for checking in. -Blu
“Forgiveness liberates the soul. It removes fear. That is why it is such a powerful weapon.” – Nelson Mandela
