I'm going to talk to my GP about recommending an IC for me this week. I've tried two different ones. The first was awful (interrupted, judged, kept telling me how controlling H was...duh. so am I!) And the second was a great listener and validator, but not much help beyond that. I need a smart, tough cookie IC who can help me move forward. I'm stubborn, I guess.
ciluzen,
I had an IC when my wife's EA stuff started. I thought I had jealousy issues. I never cared for the IC because she seemed to like affirmations. Affirmations never really did anything for me. Then, I checked out her credentials; her Phd was in music and she specialized in music therapy. Oh well.
Finding a good MC was serendipitous for me (I'll spare you the details); she'd had 25 years of marriage counseling experience and she's a "straight shooter." My wife only went to three sessions with her but I continued on with her for individual counseling. If it weren't for her, I'd still be flailing around in limbo-land.
One of the first things she said to me was, "Look, this is how marriage works; if your wife has a friend that you don't like, then the friend has to go." (And vice versa, of course.)
I'm going to see her tomorrow and I can't wait because I have a lot of ground to cover.
