I think a coach would be a great idea They can give invaluable advice It is completely reasonable and understandable for you not to want OM around your S. Just remember you can request that, but that doesn't mean you can control whether she respects it or not. Which is why you have to show no emotion about it either way. Just keep working on your goals and what is important to you to detach. That's what you can control
M 37 W 30 S 7 Together 10 years Married 9 years BD: 12/12/12(W filed same day) I moved to apartment 1/11/13 W and S moved to MIL 1/11/13 Peicing: 6/3/13 Reconciled: 7/2013 BD2: 4/20/16 still working on it