Hi MLeigh, on the 'you didn't want me' theme - I wouldn't 100% take that one on. I'm sure in all M's there are times when we are stretched and forget to cherish someone. Times when we hurt and irritate our partner. It's part and parcel of living together.

Do take and learn those things that help you move forward and be the kind of partner you want to be in the future. However also recognise that there is a 'part' to own for your MLCer too. There were options available to your H that he didn't take up - perhaps because he didn't have the tools to do that - but his to own nonetheless.

Take care my friend and I am glad to read the place you are in xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus