W ring me or txt me everyday, I'm trying to think of a way of change my availability, I've limited by not responding! However this seem to just make her chase harder more calls and txt's
Also wants to know where I am, what I'm doing etc!
Not sure what to do?
Sometimes the W chasing you is a positive step, (meaning she is getting more interested in your life), and then sometimes it is her wanting more control....or to even keep you attached to her. Which do you think it is?
If it is unwanted and you find it a nuances, then make yourself more unavailable and not respond to her texting throughout your working hours, at the least. Don't answer anything that is not a direct question that merits an answer. I suggest you tell her that during working hours, you had rather wait till the end of the day to text.....unless it is an emergency.
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Thinking of messaging something like this to her "I can't be on the end of a phone for you all the time, that changed when your feeling for me changed, unless it an emergency or something that can't wait"
I understand, and I don't blame you for feeling that way. If you want to reconcile with her at some point, I'd suggest you not come across as if you are wanting to punish her.
How about something like, "Considering our situation, I'm sure you'll understand that my availability to you has changed. Please do not ask my parents or others about my whereabouts unless it is extremely urgent". Don't know if that's any better wording, b/c I'm not that great at it, myself.
If she is one of these people who continually talk all day long by texting, then you'll probably need to be more blunt. And, if she is simply trying to keep tabs on your life as a way to control......then, I'd say go with your first example.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
