Waw, she is in love, need advice/support II

[Bear007]

@SadHub what do you mean like fun?

GAL part already has weekly 'get out of house with friends', movies, drinks or something fun. Mundane things are only @home, do you suggest I take out my wife out and do something fun with her?
IDK how that would benefit relationship or DB?

[SH_]

Good morning Bear.

No I don't mean take out your W.

I meant something fun that breaks up the mundane. If your GAL is getting repetitive, then look for ways to break it up.

For me, I am planning on Skydiving and learning to ride a motorcycle. Now my IC says these are life threatening type activities and finds it interesting that I would choose these. But for me it is more about getting an adrenaline rush that is for fun and not anxiety. And moe important it is for my self confidence. I tend to play it safe and prefer routine, some would call it mundane, so O am going to step outside the lines here.

Now don't get me wrong, I am not saying these choices are for everyone, but mixing it up breaks up the mundane. I think in our situations breaking up the mundane is key for our progress.
IMHO.

[Bear007]

Now you mention it, friend that is taking aviating classes has offered me introductory course (in his club) for some price like 70€, with instructor flying over city and around.

I have always wanted to fly, ever since as a kid I read books from Richard Bach, but never took the effort to make it, and yeah, since I am married W always forbid me to do it 'at least until daughter turns 18'.

It is not risk-free activity, but also not too dangerous.

Thanks for the idea!

[doodler]

I remember reading Richard Bach's "Illusions" when I was 15. I really enjoyed that book.

[SH_]

No time like the present to get started on those childhood dreams that we put on hold, right?

[Bear007]

@SadHub: yes, now is the time.

Yesterday awkward talk - she started with talk that last year she found some picture of a girl sitting near me on a coffee (at work). Last year I confirmed, and said that few times a week if it is nice time outside we go for a quick coffee with whole team.

So yesterday she said that I suddenly stopped talking about coffees at work (well, nothing to say about that) and that she suddenly got HPV virus, and that I was cheating... well that escalated quickly...

I just said that I am loyal and that I have not slept with any other woman... well the truth...

This morning she came just to say she still does not believe me.

Perfect opportunity to detach... not my problem...

[Bear007]

Just rereading last post I made... to clarify:
I confirmed that I go to coffee at work with co-workers (not confirmed anything else because there is not anything else).

This says a lot about her level of trust.

[doodler]

Bear007,

Why do you think she has so little trust in you?

I'm not talking about the coffee incident, I just wonder if you've done anything in the past that would cause her to feel you're less than trustworthy.

[Bear007]

I am the definition of trust, so my thoughts is that she is reflecting her own fears and insecurities.

[sandi2]

Often times, the W will put the spot light on whatever she can find to make the H appear guilty of the same thing she may have done. She will accuse and blame, and blow it out of proportion. It gives her a sense of justification.

Stay focused on your goals, and whenever she digs to find whatever she can to pin on you............just shake your head, give a small laugh, and move on. You are not required to give an account of nonsense.