1. I may be HD, but suppose sex were available, but I didn't like the way my wife treats me in general, and didn't think she cared what I wanted in sex. That would be really difficult.
2. It might be good to have sex anyway and try not to get bitter about it. But in some ways, that feels like the same compromise I'm making when I stay married and don't have sex. I suspect it might allow the compromise to involve less physical tension, at least.
