Happy Belated Birthday! I'm glad that your family threw you a surprise birthday party. I'm sure it was a very nice party w/family all around you.
As for your h, he may have broke up w/the ow, but it's not over for them. He still is dog sitting and that's a tie w/them for now. His withdrawal from her is going to take a while and if he can cut all contact w/her after the dog sitting chore, that would be great...but that's on him to do this. Of course, he's going to blame you for his unhappiness and also the breaking up w/the ow...but that's not your worry right now. He's got a lot of work to do and you can't rescue him because he's got to hit bottom before he can rise to the surface again. Will he hit bottom? Time will tell.
For now, your focus has to be on you and taking care of you. Be a good listen to your h, but don't try to fix him...you can't. He will need to make the move to see an IC and possibly go into rehab to get a grip on his addiction.
Fasten your seat belt because it's going to be a bumpy ride for quite some time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
