Someone please tell me I am not the only one who suffers so terribly from codependence!
you are not the only one. you are not alone.
Thank you. As many others have posted, I am sorry that you too are here, but still a relief to know I am not the only one.
Originally Posted By: Zephyr
this journey, this struggle is not easy in the slightes...think kicking a drug addiction...that is how NOT easy this struggle is.
you are right there on the verge of taking control of your life again...and i think all these emotions are good to work theough as long as you keep moving forward.
proud of you for opening up to your brother.
you will get theough this and you will thrive!
I hope! I thought I caught a glimpse of a light at the end of the tunnel, but keep losing it.
One thing that is frustrating me. I left everything at the house when I left. The OFP prevented me from getting anything. XW was then able to go on with life as normal without me, substituted her friends in my place, take my toys, all my money, and just continued living. In mediation she insisted on getting everything that had anything to do with the kids. I tried fighting it but was held over a barrel, if I tried fighting it I would be stuck in court for many months and me paying her atty fees. The only logical choice was to give in to get it over with. I am sure she is scared to lose the activities with the kids too, but obviously no concern whatsoever what I am able to do with the kids. She is selfish because of her depression, or because of her problems with separation from me, or that is how she has always been? I'm going to go with the last answer, she has always been selfish.
Unfortunately this is one of my bigger fears... What will I do with my kids? Doing some of the activities with the kids will be extremely difficult without her, unless I find someone else to replace her, either friends or a girlfriend. I have an enormous number of friends, but they are all too busy, or their kids are the wrong age, or they aren't into the same things as I am. just keep looking for friends, keep trying every one every weekend? Or just give up the hobbies and find new ones?
