How to rekindle love?

[Rose888]

I could use some advice, if anyone has a minute or two.

H got back from his trip late last night. Today is my birthday. When I was reviewing the schedule with the kids this morning, I mentioned that tonight is the high school academic awards ceremony and both our twins are getting awards. (Individual teachers give awards based on their own criteria. We don't know what awards my kids are getting, or how many, only that they are each getting at least one.)

H mentioned that our college son would have to take them, because we have plans. One of my twins (the one who struggles with depression and anxiety) mentioned that he wanted us there.

Ordinarily, I would attend, I already cancelled my usual exercise class so I could go.

But.

One of the things I have been working on is being more flexible and not shooting down H's plans if they interfere with The Schedule.

I'm thinking I need to go with H and miss the awards ceremony, even though the kids won't really understand. (They don't know the marriage is struggling.)

Thoughts?

H is very sensitive to my moods and thoughts, so I need to go all in and be excited about his plans if I miss the ceremony. Otherwise, it will be a lose-lose situation.