I also asked her opinion about leading and this was her response:
Leadership is all about getting your control back and no longer asking for permission to do things. It's knowing what you want and then asking for it without apologizing and fluffing up your language as to not insult.
Example: I want to take you out for dinner on Friday vs. it would be great if we went out sometime.
Both are similar statements but send very different messages to people especially women.
She has given me an exercise for this week to be aware of how I am with everyday life in how I use language. For example, when I go to the grocery store, do I get mixed up talking to the woman behind the meat section. No, I know what I want and I approach her and say what I want.
I understand more to when Sandi says about getting the respect back regardless of how it make the WW feel. Don't be confrontational about it, just strong, assertive and at times direct. You know what you want, why are we scared of one person and how they might react. I have seen so many occasions now were I rewarded poor attitude and behaviour. It's amazing how some are so little but can make a big impact.
I love finding this stuff out and putting it into practice now, doing what I want. Even telling my W what I want regarding the kids, I have noticed her reactions when I have just been clear about what I want. She is not used to it and it has taken her aback. It's not about being cold or vindictive, I'm just finally standing up and doing what I want. I love it!
