I haven't read all your old threads yet, but I'm planning too as soon as I get a chance. I wanted to send you (((hugs))), what an awful situation you are finding yourself into. I hope you and the boys are ok, and that your H gets some help somehow.
Take care!
"There's nothing sadder than a conman conning himself"
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask "What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, What if you fly?”