Ideally, if you can call the kids without her being in that space then it should be easier for you. But again, you're worrying what she's thinking when you call them.
On my side, i introspected a few weeks back that I was trying to stoop to my WW's level, in terms of getting a reaction, which is being vindictive. But i slowly turned that and realised that I was smarter than she could ever be vindictive. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
