continued detachment, anxiety, and joys of limbo

[Sotto]

Hi Phoebe, glad to read that you are doing well. And like others say - I'm proud of you!! You are pushing forward even though challenging things are happening for you - a true measure of your character.

As for the friendships with others. One thing I have had to learn is how to look after myself in new situations. Codependent no more is useful for this. The fundamental question is always - is this working for me? Is this okay with me? If not - follow up question - what do I need to do to look after myself in this situation?

I think this leads to more honest and authentic relationships - where I'm not trying to please people in order to earn acceptance - but where I am turning up as 'me' and would like friendship, but equally can say if something isn't working for me.

Hope this helps anyway Sweetie and hope you have a good day today. I would agree that it's probably not worth avoiding the process server. Why should you hide away from anything?? Xx