Still here and need support

[Phoebe]

Too true on the LBS meetup need. I wish I had any in-person local support. I did join the local Beyond Affairs Network MeetUp, but they only have had one meeting in the last few months, and it was just me, the coordinator, and one other person. There have to be so many of us out there!

Look into SH's suggested viewing. Browne brown's talk is great, and Guy Winch's emotional first aid is good.

My main suggestion for you is to focus on the moment you are in and try not to focus on the bigger picture or the longer term. Try to make that moment a good one. Find a way to start laughing more. Go find something online that is foolish. Heck, watch a few cat videos. Do something silly and fun with your D7.

Positivity starts from inside you and making a conscious choice to shut down those negative thoughts. Recognize negative thoughts as they come to you and then just let them bounce off you and replace them with something better. Have a few positive replacement thoughts already prepared and ready to go. Visualize yourself in a moment that usually triggers you and the mentally practice how you will replace those thoughts.

So, tonight when you have a negative thought coming on or you feel yourself starting to ruminate on a painful subject, maybe choose instead to remember something sweet or funny that your D7 did recently.

Be well , Poschan.