Chapter 2, She moved out - I win! I think

[bigybiz]

Wow: This is the greatest group of people I never wanted to meet. I too wish I could meet many of you. If you are in Toronto - you need to let me know.

Yesterday, the kids and I had a meeting to discuss the W proposed visitation schedule. The kid's told me that since she moved out - she should not have visitation in the family home. Further, when I asked if we should invite her over for meals, special occasions, etc - they said no.

The kids are rocking the detachment.

Today was tough - I was physically busy but she was on my mind all day. If not reliving past arguments, I was coming up with ways to bug her. OK day one detachment not going so good.

She was supposed to get back in touch with me to discuss. I sent her a message last night to set up a time but no response. She thinks she has the kids tomorrow night.

What is the right strategy? I want to be strong and not put up with her nonsense. But, I realize right now I'm letting her nonsense bug me. Should I:

Just wait it out and assume she is spending time with the boys on Tues?

Assume she is deliberately going dark - and assumes she will do what she wants

Something else:

Please help - need a strategy now.

Calling everyone give me your input please. I want to be strong, aloof, non confrontational, don't put my kids in the middle of it - but not put up with her BS.

On the other hand, I had a great evening with my boys, enjoying our home and the kids are liking my cooking and baking. It's nice to be appreciated.

I'm behind in work - so no motorcycle ride tonight.

Please help! Sandi2, Cadet, SahHub, Melo, Phoebe, JimKao, Collin, everyone.