Ripe, you never have to learn to live without your kids, you always have the memories. If my W moves I will just move where she moves,so I can be by my S. We cant stop the suffering but we can learn to be better Dads we can be and that will help. I feel your pain, my S is holding up good at face value. It was a shock to him, and says that he didn't see it coming. I am sad for him, his mother is just not being a good mom right now. She is trying but here head is in the fog and she is very distracted. Your kids will always be yours, if you think of them in the future, will they say Dad I am glad you suffered and stayed with Mom all these years, or will they say, Dad I am so glad that you showed us how to be such happy people, even in the face of tragidy.
M 21 years XW 43yo, me 41 yo S13 BD March 2016 - she asked me to patient... End of June - I started the D process. D final 2/23/17 "He who forgets will be destined to remember" Eddie Vedder
