You don't have to feel strong. You just keep going. That is strong

Listen to sandi, she has helped many a lbs in such situations.Her advice can only help.

R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together