Coconut's posting is spot on. There is nothing wrong w/setting up a time to get your personal belongings such as your clothes at this time. If there are other things that you need and/or required to do your work, then you need to also take them as well. Unless your wife creates an uproar over your stuff still being in the house, I wouldn't make an issue of taking everything at this time.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
