No, that's not what I was saying at all. However, I believe WW's seldom do a U-turn. When I think of a U-turn, I think of a rapid and compete turnaround. In most cases, it is not quick enough for the H, and usually it comes in backward nd forward baby steps, Instead a one time U-turn.
It is a process for the WW to work through every thing required for her to become the W he wants again.
I have seen few newcomer H's who appear to have taken the bull by the horns and respond as effectively as I have seen in you. It is not easy for the H to stand tall, strong, and firmly. He gets tired and discouraged and begins to doubt if there is hope. I believe there is a lot of hope in your case.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
