Here are my thoughts about the W's spewing related to her time of the month. I understand that some women legitimately suffer from PMS. I did not have that problem, but suffered terribly for 24 yrs from Endometrosis, which is basically going into labor every month......there's just not a baby delivered. So, I understand pain related to menstration!
I just know a lot of women who use the "excuse" that their nasty, rotten, mean behavior is b/c of having their periods. It is only a crutch to use, in case someone's strong enough to call their hand on her sorry a$$ behavior. Just as some women use that time to go to bed, lay around and escape the chores of housework. Being on edge, crying, fatigue, impatience, is one thing.......but if the family is running in terror of her, it's time she had something done......or get an attitude adjustment.
I suppose it also depends upon how much attention, or lack thereof, that she receives during that time. Just to be fair, I have wanted to get a few dumb a$$ men by their ears and yank some sense into them, about what their W's were dealing with every 28 days.....and how he might think about offering to help out a little more with small children, etc. So........you have to use good sense and judgement in these cases.
Some women legitimately are suffering badly, and have to get off their feet and seek relief however they can. Don't mistake me to believe all females are faking, and every woman is cut from the same menstration cookie cutter. They, indeed, are very individual. I am just saying they should not be excused for spewing intentional, disrespectful, verbal attacks on her H and/or children. If she has a "habit" of turning into a screaming shrew once a month........and she won't let her H calmly talk with her about what they can to do alleviate things..........then maybe he needs to think about addressing the home atmosphere and what is best for all who has to endure this period every month. There is so much more help for women now, than there were years ago.
Anyway, back to the subject of her spewing (periods or not), I do not join the ranks on the board who say to wear a spew jacket. I think the more you allow her to spew on you.......the more she disrespects you. I mean think about it. She is verbally votiming all over you, and you just stand there while she does it? I don't think any man should take it. In the first place, if she has a legitimate physical reason.........she needs to get medial help. (If she has a mental/emotional problem, she needs to get help with that, too). And the second place? She didn't treat you that way before M, I'll bet. She knows who she can throw up on, and who she can't. I doubt she would do her boss, the Pastor/Priest, a respected member of .........whatever, someone she wanted to impress, etc. It causes me to believe it is a choice behavior.
Spewing has a selective audience.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
