Thanks Job, I emailed XH to suggest we get some advice from an independent surveyor - though he hasn't responded yet. Fair enough, it's a holiday weekend here. It is on my mind, has affected my sleep and I'll be glad when we resolve it.
On the plus side, the house I'm (hopefully!) buying costs much less than the one we're selling, so it wouldn't be a deal breaker if we do need to reduce the price. I find it hard going having to 'partner' with XH on this though. He flips between 'let them chase us' to 'we don't want to lose this buyer!' And I do feel I need to pretty much operated as 'the sane one' here.
Having a pleasant enough weekend - couple of nice social things - and I'm at the bookstore today - it's a festival day in our town, so should be busy. I'm anticipating a bit of a tough week as I'm going up to the house to clear the rest of my stuff out....not been for many months and not looking forward to it. Glad my chums are coming with me and know I just need to dig in and get it done.
I also decided that I'm only taking things I want in my life going forward to my new house. So, I've been working on clearing out the case from under the spare bed. Into this went things I didn't know what to do with - wedding dress, photos, cards etc. The dress is going to charity and I've recycled all the cards from XH, and most of the photos. I don't want to erase this part of my life, but just decided to keep a dozen or so of the best photos and that's what I've done.
So, that's where I'm at - okay, but will be glad to get through this rather tough phase and on to the more pleasant stuff of looking forward to being in my new home etc.
Take care all xx
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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
