Chapter 2, She moved out - I win! I think

[bigybiz]

Sandi2: What guy in his right mind would want to leave you.

Sandi2 - thanks for laying it out as you have. It's almost reassuring to hear that there could be two ways. I can totally say that I was hoping the "detachment" would just sort of happen.

I can tell you right now - I've already started to see how some of my feelings, etc are in direction relation to how she acts, responds, etc. I think now I can start ditching that.

As I've said over and over. I'm really enjoying the GAL part. I love catching up on the house projects, My motorcycle is a massive pleasure and being with my kids and the changing dynamic with them has been awesome. My workouts, new friends, old friends, new skills, etc - has been great. I really do feel so much more confident and as if my life is almost complete.

Nonetheless, my faith still tells me that God brought us together and I should not "dispose" of her. Which I wish I could do - but I can't.

So, I'll keep on with the GAL - that's easy.

I will:

Thought Stop (all I do is think about her)
Not put up with her crappy behaviour when it crops up
Continue not showing interest in her "new life" - trying to be aloof ( I was great this week)
Continue to fill the void in mine and the kids life

I really do want to get to the point where I don't care/let go. Because I'm positive - once that happens i) she may show some interest ii) I will be really ready to move on.

So here is my pledge:

Continue with my high octane GAL - I love the results and everyone around me is noticing the difference.

I like the suggestion about not posting about how she would respond/feel. Consider my turning over a new leaf right now.

Read and reread the other parts of the detachment.

Again, I love the practical.