You know, that is a really tough situation. And it impacts so many relationships/lives.
My advice is to sit on it for a few days. Mull it all over. First determine if you even want this to be your role. And then, perhaps ask h how much he wants to know? Maybe say: "what do you see as my role here, in this situation? Am I your eyes and ears in this company?" And I might even go so far as to lay out to him the position you are in; conveying to him the trickiness of it and your uncertainly in your role?
We owned a rental property on the east coast and managed it from a remote area--too far to pop in. At first, everyone worked hard. But, once employees saw how infrequently we returned and that all management was done "honor system," well, it became a quick game of "when the cat's away, the mice will play."
I am just thinking, it's his brother, his wife and part his company. He may want to be made aware or maybe he wants to be oblivious. If it's the former, well, you have direction, assuming you are okay in that role.
It is very difficult to run a business from a remote location. That is just reality. I am not sure you are doing him any favors by acting otherwise?
Me 41, H 47, M 15 yrs, S11, S13 BD 1: 11/4/14 we work on it; really I pretzel myself BD 2: 3/31/15 H goes down to "dorm room" 8/15: H back to MBR 10/15: H back in dorm room 1/18: H files, now divorced
