Friday evening she comes home and calls me to get in the car with her. She asks why there is only 3 bucks in the account and when was I going to tell her. I said today when she got home.
I said you are living as a single lady and that is not acceptable. I ask for her phone she hands it over. I go the thread of the guy she is having the EA with. I said the convo talks about you loving to spend time with "her panda bear" she says that panda bear is gay just like her other friend "sunshine" whom i do know about who is gay. She gets uber pissed. I than apologize stating I thought she was cheating but she is still living as a single woman. She asks why I cut the money off an affair does not cost anything. I said if one suspects someone of cheating that is what you are supposed to do. so she is really mad and she was crying. she goes to sleep. She wakes up a bit later and tells me that I probably won't approve but she has been in contact with one of her ex boyfriends over the years and he is offering her a place to stay she just wants to make sure she goes over the particulars before she accepts his offer. I become irritated because she knows I do like him the least over all of the male relationships I know she has had. (she has had a close relationship with an ex as their families are very close. I met him and we are great friends, more like brothers than anything)
The next day she proceeds to ask me again what she was doing that made me think it was ok to do what I did. i said I thought she was having an affair. She cried again and then went to her bedroom drawer she appears to be looking for something and is purging at the same time. She throws away cards I have given her over the years as well as a card our daughter gave to her. I tell her I am going to put the money back and apologize again.
I will tell you I did not want to write this post. I feel stupid for caving in, but I want to believe her so badly. She is not here right now, back to her plan of celebrating her birthday weekend without her husband or family.
so to review, I have tried kicking her out the marriage bed and that failed, I have tried removing the money from the accounts and that failed.
The steps I am taking are backfiring. She is getting away with murder only because I do not want to let her go and she knows that.
M-41 W-46 T- 17 years M- 13 yrs SS - 25 SD- 22 D 11 ILYBNILWY - 6/6/15 Status - DBing, GAL
