Coconut, you are on the verge of being a WAH. I have seen this happen with the LBH'S and LBW'S. It is the hurt and disappointment turning into apathy.
FWIW, I don't think your MR is dead!
Listen, I see a lot of positive reactions from your W. And if I recall (I may have my stories mixed up) you had become a little less than energetic in your sex life before you knew she was giving her attention to OM. So now, you still experience some leftover feelings of rejection, b/c she is not eager to jump into sex with you.
I think your expectations are too high, considering how soon it has been since she said she would do what you asked. In my eyes, she is putting forth much more effort than a lot of WW's do. Your high expectations can unknowingly put pressure on her. Try your best not to put her under a magnifying glass while at the BBQ. Don't hover over her, but don't ignore her, either. At least pretend you are relaxed and enjoying yourself.
How is her attitude when the two of you are interacting?
Haha, there is something funny about the thought of me walking away now, after enduring so much, but I wouldn't walk away until I know I tried and there just wasn't any chance left.. I'm here until I can't take anymore, I still have a lot of take in me for now...
I agree, our MR isn't dead yet, that is to say that I believe we are both focused on keeping it going, who knows if we will be able to keep it together, but I believe that is what we both are working towards.
Yes, I was less than sexually active in my M, we both were.. Funny how I could go from being fine with two or three times a year to being "turned on" everyday for the last 2 months straight... To be honest, I wanna try being hard to get, but I really don't know how to... I've always been willing when the opportunity presents itself
The BBQ went great, it was all females that showed up, except one other guy.. I hung out with him for the majority of the day.. I participated in group talks with the girls, made some jokes and even a few innuendos, let's just say that some of the convo was interesting... I definitely didn't hover over W, in fact when we were all in the pool, she drifted over to me a few times, I acknowledged her but drifted away from her. The only time I drifted towards her is when one of her classmates started giving me a shoulder message (which seemed a bit inappropriate to me), I got out of there and went by Ws side. Over all I didn't have to pretend, I genuinely had a great time, and it seemed that all of her classmates enjoyed my company.
Her attitude towards us hanging out has been good, she doesn't dismiss what I say, and has actually been engaged with me. I caught her glancing in my direction a few times at the bbq, as if just checkin on how I'm doing. Today was a great day, not just in my MR, but for me..
M - 9 1/2 years 5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA 10/31/16 - We sold house 01/10/18 - D Finalized
