Uncharted Waters

[2Times2Many]

Thank you, Bright. I'm chuckling about your comment that your sitch is nowhere near where mine is. I really don't know where the heck my sitch is. It was somewhat easy when H was in full-blown replay .... GAL, NC, detach, etc ... but now I see some indications that he is processing the damage he's done and has some regret and I have no clue what to do. Just keep on doing what I've been doing and dig for patience and understanding and forgiveness, I suppose. Hey, vets ... help needed here.

I hope you're having a great weekend.

I think I need a little advice. It has to do with BIL and I'm not quite sure what to do. I don't know if I should tell H what's been going on or just STFU for now since it's not really detrimental to the business. Here's the sitch ...

As I mentioned above, we've had several projects going on and one of them is very time consuming and is not complete. It was under way before I took off week before last. BIL was supposed to help, but hasn't.

I discovered that during the time I was off, BIL spent pretty much a whole day on personal stuff (when he could have been assisting on the project). He was also late completing what is his his normal job, but had an excuse that H bought into.

Second, he contacted one of our big customers to inquire about getting a present for his wife. He could have just bought it online, but he contacted their buyer and I have to assume he is looking for a discount (due to our "relationship" with the buyer). That's a big time no-no in our business, is specifically addressed in our handbook and is grounds for dismissal.

Both of those things would set H off.

I don't know whether to relate that stuff to H or just put some duct tape over my mouth. I don't want to look like a "tattle-tale" and I don't want to be put in a place of being between H and BIL (I want to break that triangle), but if I say nothing, I'm going against H's request that I keep him informed about what is going on here.

When all the MLC stuff started, H put BIL in place so H could go do his thing. H is beginning to realize that was a mistake and I believe it was a huge one, but I don't trust my own motivations. If H decides that BIL has to go, that's a huge benefit to me because H would have to come back more or permanently to run the company, which is what I would love to see happen. Duh!

One thing I do know is that left to BIL, our company would go under and the company is our investment for "old age."

I suppose I don't trust myself. If H and I were not married and he was just some dude I was a partner with, I would speak up, but the sitch is more complicated than that.

Maybe I just answered my own question?? IDK. Thoughts??