Looking for Support

[Phoebe]

Ahmeds, I've gotten really behind on your sitch, but I see that we are probably at the same point, legally, or I may be a day or two behind.

I am so sorry that this has happened to you. I knew it was absolutely possible that H might never wake up, but I was still shocked to find that he had actually started the legal process to end our M. Your grief is your own and I can't ever truly understand it, but know that you have my support in your struggles.

What I most wanted to say to you, though, is this: just as we didn't break them, it is not in our power to fix them. We cannot shoulder the blame for their unhappiness, even if they try to put that weight on us. Ultimately everyone, including the WAS, is responsible for their own happiness.

I believe many (most, maybe even all???) waywards are fundamentally broken in one way or another and they are out frantically self-medicating their wounds in an attempt to feel better. They are looking outside themselves for the healing that can only come from within. They have their own journey to make.

Put on your own oxygen mask first and take care of yourself.

You have to let your H be broken. He is not your responsibility.

(((ahmeds)))