You may want to read my threads. No EA/PA, She moved out about 2 months after the BD. Our only contact is related to my d5 and that is barely, because she can not be grown up enough to have a conversation about that.
Anyway, I have not read your entire story, but trust me my friend. There are enough similarities to someones story here to match yours. It is very much like a set scripts with minor differences.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine