So, I think the hardest part about detachment for me is fearing that when she has the kids I won't get to know how they are doing, and she has the kids more than me. I'm going to do it this time though.
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16
No it doesn't, I don't speak to my kids everyday, in fact I don't speak to them when they are with her and vice versa. What makes you a great Dad is when you have them and you make the time quality. Don't we say quality over quantity for so many things..
OK, thanks guys, I need that encouragement. only contact was 24 hours ago i called and talked to the kids, no conversation with them. I think going forward if I feel like I really want to talk to them, I will simply call s15's cell.
Me: 38 y/o W: 38 y/o Together: 10 yrs Married: 7 yrs S1, D3, S15(hers previous, I adopted May'15) WBD: Sep '15 W's EA confirmed Oct'15 W Filed Dec '15 Personal awakening Mar'16
Ideally, if you can call the kids without her being in that space then it should be easier for you. But again, you're worrying what she's thinking when you call them.
On my side, i introspected a few weeks back that I was trying to stoop to my WW's level, in terms of getting a reaction, which is being vindictive. But i slowly turned that and realised that I was smarter than she could ever be vindictive. Focus on your strengths, not your weaknesses.
Just cos things are going right, doesn't mean that they were always wrong.
