There have been questions from the kids but not from her directly to me.
The leading statements would be about her and some things she is doing or has done. Should I be asking sometimes?
There is a third party involved at least on an emotional level, I haven't been able to confirm if it's more than that. The kids have not seen him or been introduced to him. She said things to me in anger about him but everyone else (that I could find) got told there is no affair going on. He is a work colleague and part of her group of friends at work that are all single or no kids.
She hasn't been as angry as she used to be, in fact, I find she is almost reaching out for guidance or maybe to be lead at times. I have found what she has said to friends (again from what I have found out) and how she is with me at times to be poles apart.
There are no direct signs that she wants to work on us and she is still together with the group at work that includes this 'friend' and I don't want to try and read into much she does or says.
One of my changes in dealing with her is just being more assertive about decisions without being arguementative of difficult. I was one to ask her too much what she wanted as opposed to what I wanted.
