Just checking in on you Phoebe and hope you managed to get a reasonable night. I understand your comment about hoping to get your life back. For most of us, BD irrevocably changes our lives and the old R effectively comes to an end. Whether it can be rebuilt just depends on whether both parties want to try again at some point.

Receiving papers needn't be the end of hope. If you want to stand in hope of a restored M at some future point, that is up to you. I stood for my own M until the D was finalised. However I'm not a stander after D and that's my choice.

You may not get your old life back - but for sure as one door painfully closes another does open and there will be much happiness, warmth and joy in your life to come. You just need to keep moving towards that - it takes time but we get there.

Xx

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus