Talked to a cousin yesterday. She was saying she saw W and POM shopping a few weeks ago, but not walking together, maybe because they saw my cousin. And saw them again a couple days ago, POM with his granddaughter and my D9, separately MIL with my S11, and W by herself looking at something. Frustrating! Guess I'm going to have to get used to it.
My cousin was also saying W usually put her nose down when she sees her at the school, but one day W says hi nicely, there was no one else around. Cousin was saying she is acting weird sometimes, make-up all done up (which she used to only do for weddings and similar) when going to the school, flinging her hair like she is being sexy. I loved W regardless of how she looked, but she is not sexy.
My cousin also said POM is creepy. A few years ago POM sent a friend request on FB to my cousin after POM saw her on the street, but they never talked. She is over 20 years younger than POM. And he was still married at the time.
Read some more of DR. Would have been handy info years ago.
Read some more on codependence, still wondering to myself if I want W back because I want her back or because of the codependence. The withdrawals are painful, similar but much worse than trying to quit smoking.
Talked to a friend today, the one who's wife left him for an A, 3 1/2 years ago, she was a boomerang, they are piecing now, very slowly. His story is sad, he is so beaten down! He tried dating while she was gone, was with one girl for 5 months, and said he could never get his mind off his W. And now trying to forgive all the hurt she caused, I can hear the pain in his voice. But he's not giving up on her. He keeps telling me "your W will be back, you'll see." I don't want to end up like him!!!
