But how do you completely detach when you see that they are making some sort of effort on their own to deal with their issues? I know it may sound ridiculous to say I'm trying to DB and move on, but I really am. But I feel the need to watch out of the corner of my eye to see what he's doing. That want is still pretty strong.
ciluzen,
I don't know that there is an easy answer for this and I imagine the time needed for detachment to take place varies for each of us. My thoughts are that it is through concentrated efforts that each of us will reach the point. I encourage that you seek out any material that can aid you in understanding what detachment is and how one can do it. The heart is a finicky thing for many of us, but like any other thing in life that is worth it, it will take work, time and a belief that we can do it.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
