Hi Kyle , I hope it's ok to post. All this is a huge shock for you and you need time to accept what is happening to you.
Right now , your W is done , nothing you do ( right now ) will bring her back. She didn't make this choice overnight and she won't change her mind overnight
You need to read Cadets homework and start to accept that the old M is over.
A lot of what your W is saying is script and even you saying she will not change her mind is what we all think about our WAS
The reality is you have a great opportunity to work on you. Become the best you that you can be. Take up hobbies that maybe you never had time for , become the best dad the world has ever seen This is Kyles time to grow.
as long as you are looking to W for her reaction to your changes then the changes will not be real and she will see that.
We all struggle to accept our new reality , none of us were in abusive Rs , we all love our WAS or we wouldn't be on here but the sooner we accept what's happened and move forward with a plan , the sooner we live our lives as we should
All the above is said to get you to live your life. W is on her journey so Kyle can sit like a puppy waiting for her to decide what she's wants or Kyle can improve and use the gift of time your W has given you and thrive IF that brings W back then great but if not you have gained from this and become the Kyle you always should have been
