I found this bit of advice from Coach from years back. I have enjoyed reading his posts. I have seen parts of me in it and have seen how at times I have smothered my W. All part of my learning curve.
"Let me offer a theory I have, I hope no women read it. Here it is: Men are like dogs, woman are like cats. Dogs like to sleep, eat, play ball/hunt and be petted. If the dog screws it will take his lumps and then want to make up right away. Dog is always glad to see you, wags its tail, jumps on you, slobbers on you and will do whatever you want. Women are like cats, just try to figure one out. Call it and it runs away, ignore the cat and it jumps on your lap. Now you start stroking the cat and the cat starts purring (you think you got it figured out now) then the cat turns, bites you and runs away. Why? Who knows?! Cats are just different animals. You are working way to hard. Does your wife ever say you smother her? Mine has. It's because I am a Labrador Retriever and she is a cat. The point is you are trying to fix the cat by still acting like a dog. Just let the cat do its thing and you be there for it to jump in your lap."
