What Should I be doing 3

[Rose888]

And now, just a few minutes after my last post, she texts "hey babe, how are you"... My analyzing mind asks why she doesn't say I'm thinking of you... Instead it feels like she's checking to see if I'm awake, grrr, why do I have to over analyze everything... I'm just gonna stay silent and not respond, pretty much what I would always do this time of night, it's almost 1 am here..

Wha...WHAT?! You must be thick-headed....wow.

She called you "babe" which is GREAT in my book AND asked how you were. Super!!!

And you're not happy? What the hell?? Geez..that's too bad because YOU lost an opportunity for some fun, light-hearted exchanges with W. You need to understand that W was most definitely thinking of you otherwise she wouldn't have bothered to text you at all.

I think it's high time for you to read Gottman's two books called Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work and The Relationship Cure. They are perfect for your current sitch. You two need to learn how to reconnect as friends and work on the emotional connection.

I agree with Wonka. The fact that she texted you shows she was thinking of you. Saying it would be repetitive.

As for her not texting you earlier--I think long term it's healthier for spouses to be able to have fun and stay present where they are when they are apart. You don't want to "fix" your current issues by causing another problem--spouses who are emotionally fused.

I understand why it was a tough night for you. But you made it through! Next time should be a little easier.