Step up, you'll be ok, a mistake doesn't end everything, but it does set you back. The key is consistency, and a mistake breaks up the consistency.
When you say you rarely step up to your WW, I just want to make sure it's clear that we are not suggesting you get angry, or loud, or any other attack mode. It's letting her know that you are not ok with something, and what the consequence of such action is if it's done (boundaries). I.e. We are married and it is not ok for you to come home at all hours of the night, I will be locking the doors at 11pm... Or, I will not live in or be a part of a open marriage, I will not share the marital bed with a cheater, etc... Re read the validation and boundaries links that cadet gave you on page 1.
Also, edit your profile to identify your sitch, just go to my stuff, then click on edit profile and go to the bottom.. See my stuff below this to get an idea of what to put.
Not violent, nowhere near. just passive, allowing her to have her way in most situations
M-41 W-46 T- 17 years M- 13 yrs SS - 25 SD- 22 D 11 ILYBNILWY - 6/6/15 Status - DBing, GAL
