My Wife Walked Out

[RSG]

Sandi, wow. Eye opening stuff, thank you!!
Let me address these one by one:

1)Yes, I'm prepared to accept her as she is. I know I can change my reactions to things, and my communication. You really opened my eyes about my reactions. Eye rolling, groaning, etc are things she really hates. I have worked on them, but I know I can work even harder and come as close to eliminating them as possible. Basically you put it down to accepting her as is, or getting out. I like that.

2) Sometimes it hasn't even been "winning" but just complaining. Showing respect from the beginning can really change the outlook of a conversation.

3) No I haven't seen this coming, but her reason for separating is because she's been "unhappy for a long time." I thought there were a lot of things affecting her, but, from my point of view, she's trying to see if eliminating the marriage can make her happy. She took some of her clothes and perfume and moved to a friend's house. I'm definitely using this time for me. Working on myself, doing things to get out, eating better, being a great Dad for my son, etc.

I'm definitely working on my communication. And have done a good job keeping my conversation, in person, via phone and text, secluded to our son and whatever she wants to talk about. I don't instigate anything. (It ain't easy!)