Sorry to hear another sad story. I did want to share the information about HCTZ (Hydrochlorothiazide) is a diuretic (water pill) used to treat hypertension, but does not have loss of libido, or impotence listed as a common side effect. Other drugs used for the treatment of hypertension do often have sexual side effects, but not commonly HCTZ. Just wanted to put that out there for information!! Have you read the Five Love Languages yet??