one thing we have to understand is when we hide our true feelings it generates untrustworthyness and you start to lose that closeness that you get with a deep trust...that is in a normal, healthy relationship
we were not holding up our end of that honesty bargain. you can fix your side and you don't need to be involved in a marriage to do it.
our spouses have used hiding, lying, deceit and omission as a first line defense for a long time. they want to feel normal, to appear normal so they pretend and hide all of those feelings of shame and hurt and whatnot.
they will need to figure out on their own...or they will continue to pretend who they appear to be is real.
